Therapy for Expecting and New Moms
The Early Years
You Need a Place Where You Can Be Real.
(and not only is that ok, but it feels SO good)
I see you out there keeping it all together. You want be a joyful mom and yet there are parts of this that completely suck. There are days when you can barely take care of yourself, let alone all the other people in your life that are counting on you.
It gets so tiring to keep it up and you wear the badge of “busy” so well.
You see the pregnant and new moms on instagram, looking so put together. Not only do you not feel like you have it together, but maybe there are new and scary things happening for you. Maybe you are having intrusive thoughts that feel so shameful that you can’t tell anyone for fear that you are going crazy. This is just NOT YOU. The thoughts come and you feel out of control and they don’t make any sense.
On some level, you know it’s not who you are, but you can’t help but feel like you are just not nailing this mom thing the way you thought you would or even close to how you wanted to. Or maybe you are expecting your first child and wondering how the heck you are going to do all the things that other moms do.
It is so overwhelming. Whatever it is that is stealing your joy, you’re beginning to notice the impact of this in every facet of your life:
It feels like the only thing that you and your partner talk about anymore is the kids
You are consumed with all the things going on in your mind that you can’t actually enjoy this time
You feel like you are constantly behind and flustered in everything you do
The only thing that you feel like you identify with these days is being your kids’ mom, do you even matter anymore?
It may feel impossible now, but you can discover your adult relationships again. You can find your own identity within the framework of motherhood. You can find your flow in parenthood.
It will feel like freedom, and I can help you get there. Therapy to address the stress and anxiety of expecting a new baby or being a new mom can really change everything.
As an expecting or new mom, mental health therapy helps you do 4 things:
learn how to anticipate and meet the challenges that parenting young children brings without it completely derailing you.
Identify the areas of your life and relationships that are most important to you and allow you to allocate your energy in a way that serves your values
Maintain the parts of yourself that make you feel like you, while you navigate the journey of motherhood
respond to the stress and uncertainty in your life in new ways, not with the old patterns that are so ingrained right now.
I’ll help you through this process, tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances. My approach to therapy with expecting and new moms comes from a place of compassion and understanding: knowing that you don’t have to lose yourself when you become a mother; you can move through motherhood with confidence meeting the challenges as they come.
The journey can be joy{full}
FAQ’s
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Mom-ing is hard. That’s the truth. It’s the anxious spiraling thoughts, the heart pounding deep pit in your stomach and the constant need to control all the things that are constantly taking from you. Obsessing over the daily tasks in your life, your children’s safety, and schedules and routines can impede your social life, work performance, your relationships, and your overall quality of life. Working with a therapist can really help you to identify the areas that are creating your anxiety, and give you tools and strategies to manage it effectively.
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I wish there was there was a concrete answer to this question, and it’s one that I get a LOT. Usually it’s a combination of a bunch of things that all pile on top of eachother. Some of it may be nature and some nurture. Sometimes a past or current trauma shows up like anxiety. We live in a society that certainly supports doing and fixing and moving as a badge of honor that we wear.
The “why” may not be as important as the “what now” but it’s worth taking a closer look in therapy. Seeking anxiety help is a good starting place.
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Reach out and schedule your free 30 minute consultation. We will meet online via HIPAA compliant video platform and I will answer any questions you have about the therapy process, how I might be able to help you with your specific situation, and any other details that will determine how we move forward. I’ll walk you through each step with personalized attention.
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Absolutely not! The beauty of Telehealth and Online therapy is that you can be anywhere in the states of Oregon and California, or BOTH! In Central Oregon? No problem! In San Francisco? YEP! Beaverton and surrounding areas? YAAASS!